first published on September 11, 2004 in Sun.Star Weekend Cebu under lost and found column#10 I have never been a people person. At parties, I would find a deserted corner and read. Everyone took me for a nerd. At family gatherings, I used to hide in my journal, writing about loneliness, as everybody caught up on each other’s lives. After some years most people knew enough to leave me to myself. In truth, I just didn’t know HOW to talk to people. I could passionately discuss religion, philosophy, science—even love—but share about my own life, my own feelings? All the words would fly out of my brain. The only person I knew how to talk to was myself. I did it so well that at any given time, I knew exactly what I wanted to do with the rest of my life, and how I wanted to live it. Principles, priorities, values, goals—my inner map was always clear. Work was the top priority, of course, because it would get me to where I wanted to be; responsibility was the prime virtue. Meeting deadlines ...